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3 Words to Say to Your Cat

Is it possible for three words to transform your relationship with Kitty from dull to delightful — from distrusting to secure? This video answers that in such a calming way that even non-cat people are in for a real treat. No wonder it's scored over 4 million views on YouTube so far.

Reviewed by Dr. Becker

May 2, 2026 • 5 min read

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STORY AT-A-GLANCE

A widely shared video from Vancouver veterinarian Dr. Uri Burstyn shows simple, gentle ways to pick up and carry cats with his feline assistants, Clawdia and Mr. Pirate
Cats are easier to handle when they are fully supported, rather than being lifted awkwardly under the front legs and left hanging or scrambling
“Squish that cat” is a gentle restraint method Dr. Burstyn uses to help many cats feel secure, calm, and less likely to panic or struggle
The “football carry” is a more secure hold that can be useful when a cat needs to be moved quickly, safely, and with steady body support
A shoulder cat is a cat that likes riding on a person’s shoulder, and should be lowered by supporting the back and leaning forward over a stable surface

Editor's Note: This article is a reprint. It was originally published July 17, 2018.

The video above (which is worth watching if you haven’t yet) is a surprise viral hit, earning more than 4 million views on YouTube as of this writing. It’s undeniably cute and wildly popular, making it well worth sharing.

According to Global News, it’s the combination of veterinarian Dr. Uri Burstyn’s soothing voice and the calm demeanor of his two kitty co-stars — Clawdia and Mr. Pirate — that appeals to cat lovers and non-cat lovers alike.¹ At The A.V. Club, a pop culture website, blogger Clayton Purdom (yes, that’s really his name!) offers this hilarious take on Dr. Burstyn’s how-to video:

“There is an entire separate ecosystem that exists within the internet that is designed to calm you. There are ‘oddly satisfying’ GIFs on Reddit and hour-long ASMR videos on YouTube and entire fleets of websites that serve as weighted blankets against the shrieking terror of the rest of the internet.

These things can all be nice — they are designed to be nice — but none of them are as nice as this [seven]-minute informational video about how to properly pick up a cat. I am not being sarcastic. Sarcasm has been drained from my body like water from a sponge after viewing the fourth YouTube video by 'Helpful Vancouver Vet,' a Vancouver-based veterinarian who is very helpful.”²

As for Dr. Burstyn, he’s surprised and flattered by all the attention his video has received.

“A lot of people have commented on the fact that they find it very soothing, watching the way I handle the cat,” he told Global news. “A lot of people commented that the cat really seems to enjoy the interaction. That’s something that people find very compelling, watching a cat and a human interact in a positive manner.”

Carrying a Cat in a Way That Makes Her Feel Safe and Supported

In his video, Burstyn first demonstrates how many people carry their cats, holding the kitties under the front legs, away from their bodies, sort of swinging them around. Cringe-worthy, not to mention unsafe!

He suggests first making friends with the cat. Let her sniff your hand, give her a little scratch on the side of the face, and use a light touch as you stroke her. When you go to pick her up, it’s important to make her feel supported. Burstyn puts one hand under Clawdia’s chest and one hand under her abdomen and gently lifts her. No part of her body is hanging down or flopping around.

He explains that when you carry a cat with your hands under the front legs and the body hanging down, she will naturally try to gain purchase with her back feet, which can result in scratches. Next, Burstyn demonstrates how to carry a cat by holding Clawdia close to his body with one arm and “squishing” her into him so she feels nice and supported. He places his free hand under her front paws for a little extra support.

Squish That Cat!

Now, if you have a cat who’s trying to escape, Burstyn recommends that you “squish that cat.” (Please note: If the idea of “squishing” your cat makes you uncomfortable, you really need to watch the video!) What he’s doing with Clawdia, who is resting on her tummy on the exam table, is placing one hand over her upper back near her neck and the other hand over her lower back near the tail, and applying very gentle pressure. The best form of cat restraint is to “squish that cat,” he says.

Burstyn believes this makes kitties feel very secure — even cats who come into his clinic very scared get gently squished so they can’t hurt themselves or anyone else. If you have a towel handy, you can also drape the towel over the kitty and then squish. Burstyn says generally speaking, cats are very happy to be squished as he demonstrates.

Next Up — the Football Carry

This maneuver is for when you need to carry a cat somewhere in a hurry. Clawdia is standing on the exam table, and Burstyn “scoops” her up by sliding his left hand over her body and under her tummy while placing his right hand over her backend and lifting so that her head is sort of under his arm and her body is arched and pulled into his chest. Then he squishes her tight to his body, and that’s the football carry!

Although the “football carry” is convenient and safe for veterinarians and their staffs, it doesn’t appear to be especially comfortable for Clawdia. It’s also not a hold most cat parents would — or should — use except in emergencies.

Mr. Pirate the Shoulder Cat

Mr. Pirate, who’s a 14-year-old boy, is a bit chunky, which we can see from his broad back as he rests facing away from us on Burstyn’s shoulder. Mr. Pirate, as expected, loves to be on shoulders, which is impossibly adorable.

Burstyn mentions that shoulder cats are very easy to carry, but some people feel uncomfortable around them. (Burstyn has placed the cat on the exam table to show it off, but Mr. Pirate would prefer to be back on that shoulder!) As a result, those unfamiliar with shoulder cats may feel a bit apprehensive — worried about the cat climbing, jumping onto their shoulder, or scratching them.

But Burstyn says all you have to do is learn the cat’s “I want to get on your shoulder” signal, lean toward him, and he’ll scramble right up while you support his bottom. It’s important to be a little careful so you don’t get scratched and so kitty doesn’t go up and over your shoulder and shoot off your back. Shoulder cats can also be squished, according to Burstyn, to help them feel secure.

Putting a shoulder cat down is a bit tricky because, number one, he often doesn’t want to be put down! Dr. Burstyn offers two choices: the first is to lean back until the cat jumps off. He points out that this isn’t the safest option. The better choice is to support kitty’s back with your hand and keep leaning forward over a stable surface until kitty sees the writing on the wall and maneuvers himself off your shoulder. Dr. Burstyn’s final word of advice: Just remember to have fun with your cat!